I’ve followed the recent stories involving the NFL and player actions within with great interest and concern. I cringed when I saw the footage of Ray Rice dragging his cold-cocked fiancee out of an elevator; and I almost threw up when I saw the OTHER footage where he actually slugged her IN the elevator.
Then I watched as the NFL and the Baltimore Ravens danced around various suspensions, and finally there was the laughable two-game suspension of Rice – which only increased to an indefinite suspension after the second video was made public.
Now that being said, I’m no fan of any athlete or public figure who assaults another woman, whether it be his wife or his fiancee or some meet-up in a college bar. And I’ve blogged about my disgust for those people who commit those crimes. Chad Ochocinco/Johnson. Travis Kvapil. I’Mir Williams. Even the quarterback for my beloved Pittsburgh Steelers, Ben Roethlisberger. And I would post the pictures of what Christy Mack looks like after her MMA boyfriend War Machine beat her into unrecognizability… but those pictures would be too graphic and disturbing for this blog.
But the Adiran Peterson story… that story is too close to home for me.
Background.
Adrian Peterson, the running back for the Minnesota Vikings, was charged with child abuse based on reports that he hit his 4-year-old son with a broken-off tree branch, also known as a “switch.” The child received welts and scars on his legs and buttocks.
According to Forbes, who gathered information from various sources, Peterson “whooped,” in his own words, his child with the switch. The CBS affiliate in Houston reported that Peterson later sent text messages to the mother of his child, with such language as:
- describing wounds inflicted on the child’s thigh, his mother might be “mad at me about his leg. I got kinda good wit the tail end of the switch.”
- That he “felt bad after the fact when I notice the switch was wrapping around hitting I [sic] thigh.”
- “Got him in nuts once I noticed. But I felt so bad, n I’m all tearing that butt up when needed! I start putting them in timeout. N save the whooping for needed memories!”
- And then, as if to distance himself from the actions and their consequences, he said, “Never do I go overboard! But all my kids will know, hey daddy has the biggie heart but don’t play no games when it comes to acting right.”
Ugh.
As a survivor of child abuse and child endangerment, I read these words and I want to puke.
And when I heard that the punishment for Adrian Peterson was a one-game paid suspension, only to be reinstated in time for the Vikings’ Week 3 matchup against the New Orleans Saints… I couldn’t believe it.
What was I seeing? That you could leave bruises and welts and scars on a four-year-old child, and all it cost was a one-game suspension? And you gotta get back on the field because what, someone has Adrian Peterson in their fantasy league team and he needs those stats so he can defeat whichever one of his buddies has the team name “Password is Taco”?
Well, I wasn’t the only one who was upset over these actions.
The NFL’s sponsors are also upset. Within 24 hours of the Vikings’ decision to reinstate Adrian Peterson for the next game, the Radisson hotel chain, a major sponsor of the Vikings, have suspended their sponsorship of the team. The local Nike apparel stores in the greater Minneapolis-St. Paul area have also chimed in, removing all Adrian Peterson gear from sale.
Finally comes this word from one of the NFL’s major sponsors, Anheuser-Busch, who have been monitoring not only the Adrian Peterson situation, but also the Chris Hardy and Ray Rice issues.
BREAKING: Anheuser-Busch InBev releases statement on the NFL’s recent handling of off-the-field issues. pic.twitter.com/63B6me7gNV
— Sports Biz (@CNBCSportsBiz) September 16, 2014
That’s right. When the alcohol companies are saying that you’re acting irresponsibly…
This morning, the Vikings finally took action. They placed Adrian Peterson on the Exempt/Commissioner’s permission list until further notice. This deactivates him from practices, it keeps him off the field on game day, it allows Peterson to deal with these charges and let the due process take its course. The Vikings ownership released a statement regarding their decision.
I still don’t understand. And maybe I never will. Playing in the National Football League isn’t a God-given right, it’s a privilege. You earn that privilege by your skills and your character. And you can lose that privilege if either your skills or your character are shown to deteriorate.
It shouldn’t have taken sponsor saber-rattling to get the Vikings to take Adrian Peterson off the roster.
Then again, Adrian Peterson shouldn’t have resorted to using a tree branch to discipline a 4-year-old.
And then again, maybe we should use this moment as a discussion about what it takes to discipline a child. Spanking, timeout, removal of privileges, extra chores, a wooden spoon or a spatula on the buttocks, a weighted candle-holder thrown at the back of your head…
We need to learn from these moments. We need to become better as a society and as a culture.
Just as victims of domestic abuse are watching the NFL’s move with Ray Rice…
So too are victims and survivors of child abuse, as they see how the NFL reacts to one of their top stars admitting to beating his son with a tree branch.
This is a topic dear to my heart.
Will have to add your post to my 25 Sept post.
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“It shouldn’t have taken sponsor saber-rattling to get the Vikings to take Adrian Peterson off the roster.”
Alas, the power of the almighty dollar is really what was needed. Money talks after all, but let’s hope this season and the missteps of the NFL in addressing these problems can be chalked up to growing pains. It took the revocation of money and the high profile of MVP-class players to not only draw attention to these stories but to embarrass the NFL to the extent that (we hope) it will think better next time it is confronted with a situation of this sort.
Another problem with this whole thing is the subjectivity involved and the malleability of tolerance for atrocious behavior. There should be a blanket policy that if any NFL player is charged with a crime, they are suspended pending the outcome of those charges. If they are convicted of a violent crime, they should be banned. Offenses related to drunk driving and other misconduct should also be answered harshly because these players are role models. Whatever the change is, what needs to happen is the system needs to no longer tolerate intolerable behavior, and rules and discipline should be applied evenly across the board without regard to a particular player’s salary, stats or, most importantly, revenue they generate for their franchise and league.
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The Vikings finally did the right thing, but it’s highly disturbing that it happened ONLY after the sponsors (a.k.a. the major money source) went away/threatened to go away.
What is so ironic about these recent issues is that Roger Goodell has made many moves to make the NFL more appealing to women and families, including an advertising campaign for women’s team apparel that ran during last year’s playoffs and Cover Girl’s current NFL partnership (they also spoke out against the league’s handling of the Rice and Peterson issues).
This is of course part of a larger issue – the league’s tolerance of violent behavior just so its teams can win games with these abusers on the field. To the league and the teams, the millions that these scumbags earn is a small price to pay when a Lombardi trophy or a playoff berth is at hand, I guess.
As a woman who is also a major football fan (Jets), it’s nothing short of disturbing, but sadly, nothing new. Society has been tolerating anti-woman, anti-child actions athletes in football and other sports for years. And, frankly, only the corporate sponsors seem to have enough power to make everyone accountable.
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I was going to start a Felon Fantasy Football League…but then I realized it would be exactly like a regular Fantasy Football League.
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Peterson, Rice, and Goodell. Good for sponsors like Radisson, which has temporarily suspended its sponsorship of the Vikings, Castrol Motor Oil and Nike, which have suspended sponsorship of Peterson, and Anheuser-Busch, which has put the NFL on notice.
Let’s also hear it for Fran Tarkenton and Cris Carter, who spoke out against this injustice.
Meanwhile, an NFL uniform inspector told RG3 to turn his “Know Jesus, Know Peace” shirt inside out because it wasn’t a Nike product.
the NFL.
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